Don't Let Back Pain Ruin Your Relationship!

Back pain {especially the waist} can restrict your activity, reduce your work capacity and even interfere with effective performance of your sexual functioning. Back pain,you know can disrupt your sexual relationship. Sex is an essential part of the intimacy between couples and attitudes about sex,rejection and our self-image when one just don’t feel up to a sexual encounter can haunt us for a long time.

Sex is supposed to be enjoyed for both couples and the fear of hurting yourself or your partner inhibits the spontaneous joy that you probably felt before your back pain developed. To over simplify the problem,there are basically two components of sexual functioning,all two must be in working order for things to function normally.

First and foremost are the emotional and psychological aspects of sexuality. If you are depressed, angry, frustrated, preoccupied or uninterested, you are unlikely to enjoy a sexual experience. This emotional or psychological also relates to how it feels to you and includes attitudes such as fear.

For example,the fear that the pain will worsen or last for ever,fear about what it means to be chronically disabled and fear about what you believe your partner thinks about your pain and how you are coping with your condition.

As couples,it is needful to discuss frankly about your pain limit and sexual expectations. It is a mistake to believe your partner understands what you feel,it is your responsibility to communicate those limits as clearly as possible;it is your partner’s responsibility to listen and try to understand and probably proffer suggestions that may help to mitigate the challenge.

Pain is invisible and subjective,this means your pain is unique to you. People have described their pain as chronic sensations located in the waist and later traveling down the legs via the buttocks,some have described their pain as a dull annoying ache,located in the neck, spreading to the shoulders and hands with tingling sensations and numbness.

A good number of people have described their back pain as continuous pain{that means the pain is always there} whether you are eating,driving,walking,lying down on the bed and so on,others describe theirs as a sharp or stabbing pain as if a needle or very sharp object is driven into their back.

Appreciable percentage of sufferers describes their pain as referred pain. That is the pain is located some where in the back and its effect are felt in another part of the body or organ.

Take,for instance,a located pain in the neck spreading to the shoulders and the hands or from the mid-back it spreads to the ribs and underneath the breasts, or a located pain in the waist spreading to the buttocks,thigh and probably the leg with abnormal sensation.

This article is not meant to be an in-depth examination of the psychological aspects of sexuality. If you are experiencing any of the above and are not able to resolve them with your partner,discuss it with your physician or seek help from a psychiatrist or psychologist. Most problems are successfully and rapidly resolved.

The second key components of sexuality are physiological and anatomical ones. These refer to your muscular-skeletal structures,if they are not working properly you will not be able to function normally.

This is not to say that you will not be able to enjoy sex but that it will be different. For example,men with spinal cord injuries are not able to obtain and maintain erections

without assistance,yet they are able to have intercourse and achieve orgasm. The nerve connections or wiring must be intact from the brain to the sexual organs and they must get an adequate blood supply in order for things to proceed “normally”.

This physical aspect is the actual stimulation of the nerve,similar to toothache or a slipped disc pressing on a nerve root and often times with corresponding weakness or paralysis of an organ,that the nerve root innervates,it could be the nerve root to your sex organ and with the pressure on the nerve root,there could possibly be disruption of impulses to the erectile organ,rendering it weak or flaccid during sexual encounter.

You see,you can have a good desire for sex but your organ doesn’t get erection. If your penis as a man does not become erect for you to have normal sex,it means the individual is impotent or suffering from erectile dysfunction.

This similar condition can also happen to the erectile organ of the female victim who has disabling waist pain too, invariably affecting her sexuality. Without the nerves you cannot have erection.

You have to be stimulated for you to have erection,it could also affect blood vessels and if it does,that can lead to impotence. Impotence is a vascular phenomenon assisted by the nervous system. There are very large number of medical conditions that can affect sexuality, these include; diabetes, heart disease, prostrates, vascular disease and the pain from compression of a nerve in the back.

If you have the desire and are free of pain,yet are not able to function then you should be thoroughly examined by a physician to look for a medical source.